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Good morning all
Happy Friday and a big TGIF!!!!!!!
I am sooooo ready for the weekend - only thing that could be better if it was a long weekend!! Alas that is not the case so I will take what I can get. I have a dentist appt tomorrow to get my teeth cleaned, no photography this weekend as the weather and scenery do not suit it at the time. Also not on my agenda, smoking. Smoking offers me nothing but a lifetime of serving my addiction. I worked hard to gain my freedom and I plan on keeping my address on the Freedom Road. No smoking here today and I offer my hand to the next winner joining me in kicking ash to the curb today.
Have a fantastic Friday
I gotta run.
*~ Repost: ACCEPTANCE ~*~
From Brospin3 on 10/28/2013 2:56:52 PM
This is an article I wrote a few days ago... I'm sharing it with you!
It's a short tip, but it helps me a lot and I wish it helps y'all too!!!
~~~TODAY'S TIP: ACCEPTANCE~~~
The best way to be a successful ex-smoker is ACCEPTANCE.
o ACCEPT you're now a non-smoker, hence you'll enjoy life 100x more than you did as a smoker.
o ACCEPT that bad things happen in everybodies' lifes. Being a non-smoker doesn't protect you from bad things... But you don't have to deal with smoking anymore, which is one of the worst things in this world.
o ACCEPT that you're an ex-smoker too. Hence you'll occasionally crave for a cigarette, even after years of abstinence. Successful ex-smokers aren't those whose cravings magically go away, but those who learn to accept their cravings and, eventually, they'll stop noticing they're there.
o ACCEPT that a cigarette would make things worse.
o ACCEPT that you didn't smoke for stress relief, for concentraction improvements, for enjoyment... But you smoked because you were a NICOTINE ADDICT. And, as a recovering addict, you can't take a single bit of nicotine unless you want to be a miserable slave of cigarettes again.
Insult to injury. Three stints for my sister-in-law. We are glad that my brother heard her when the event happened. She said she would have not have been able to dial 911. On the Zoom meeting with her family the comments were al "You had better quit smoking". At least if that happens to me I won't have to hear that. My brother has been wanting her to quit for years and that has been some source of tension in their relationship. When he quit it was for the money. Mortgage, car payments, teenage kids. The bills were coming in faster then he could pay them. Now money is not the issue. Now it is about the six grandchildren who need her. One is only four months old. Now she has been told that she can not lift him. They haven't gotten told what the full extent of the damage is yet. She said she beat her brother. He quit smoking after his heart attack and he only has two stints. As smokers we know that we are taking a risk but at the same time we are shocked when it happens to us. Hind sight is twenty/twenty. If my sister-in-law succeeds in quitting that will leave one more sister smoking in her family so at least she won't be the last one quit like I was in my family. It was her mother who was a mentor to me. At the age of sixty she had become pre-diabetic and was warned by her doctor to change. She quit smoking, followed the diabetic diet, went to curves three times a week, and is well into her eighties now. The mentorship was the fact that it was possible to quit what ever generation that you came from. Heart and stroke health problems can be devastation but there is also a lot of actions that can be taken to mange and control outcomes. We think she has dodged a bullet here and we hope that there is still time to go in the right direction. The hospital has her on the patch on the second dose.
Good morning everybuddy
I am up and going for the day today moving at a decent clip as I am heading off to the NW to visit a class this morning and am unsure what I will do this afternoon - either another class or office work from home as I do have lots to do. No matter what I get up to today you know that smoking will not be part of my day today or any day. I love my not perfect but sure is a heck of a lot better than smoking life. The Freedom Road is the place to be and I offer my hand in friendship and support to the next winning quitter joining me in kicking ash to the curb today.
Have a great day
Repost: Never Give Up
An excellent Carly repost. While it is true that you do not have to relapse and start over - not a requirement.....some of us do. Key is to learn from your mistakes and never give up. I am living proof that you can get there.
Never Give Up
From CarlyKicksButts on 2/13/2011 8:10:05 AM
"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail". Ralph Waldo Emerson
Here Are Some Inspirational Stories Remind Us to Never Give Up
Henry Ford failed and went broke five times before he finally succeeded.
Beethoven handled the violin awkwardly and preferred playing his own compositions instead of improving his technique. His teacher called him hopeless as a composer.
Colonel Sanders had the construction of a new road put him out of business in 1967. He went to over 1,000 places trying to sell his chicken recipe before he found a buyer interested in his 11 herbs and spices. Seven years later, at the age of 75, Colonel Sanders sold his fried chicken company for a finger-lickin' $15 million!
Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. Disney also went bankrupt several times before he built Disneyland.
Charles Darwin, father of the theory of evolution, gave up a medical career and was told by his father, “You care for nothing but shooting, dogs, and rat catching.” In his autobiography, Darwin wrote, “I was considered by my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard in intellect.
Albert Einstein did not speak until he was four years old and didn’t read until he was seven. His teacher described him as “mentally slow, unsociable and adrift forever in his foolish dreams.” He was expelled and refused admittance to Zurich Polytechnic School. The University of Bern turned down his Ph.D. dissertation as being irrelevant and fanciful.
The movie Star Wars was rejected by every movie studio in Hollywood before 20th-Century Fox finally produced it. It went on to be one of the largest grossing movies in film history.
Louis Pasteur was only a mediocre pupil in undergraduate studies and ranked 15 out of 22 in chemistry.
When NFL running back Herschel Walker was in junior high school, he wanted to play football, but the coach told him he was too small. He advised young Herschel to go out for track instead. Never one to give up, he ignored the coach's advice and began an intensive training program to build himself up. Only a few years later, Herschel Walker won the Heisman trophy.
When General Douglas MacArthur applied for admission to West Point, he was turned down, not once but twice. But he tried a third time, was accepted and marched into the history books.
After Fred Astaire’s first screen test, the memo from the testing director of MGM, dated 1933, said, “Can’t act! Slightly bald! Can dance a little!” Astaire kept that memo over the fireplace in his Beverly Hills home.
The father of the sculptor Rodin [The Thinker Statue] said, “I have an idiot for a son.” Described as the worst pupil in the school, Rodin failed three times to secure admittance to the school of art. His uncle called him uneducable.
Babe Ruth, considered by sports historians to be the greatest athlete of all time and famous for setting the home run record, also holds the record for strikeouts.
Eighteen publishers turned down Richard Bach’s Jonathan Livingston Seagull, before Macmillan finally published it in 1970. By 1975 it had sold more than seven million copies in the U.S. alone.
Margaret Mitchell's classic Gone with the Wind was turned down by more than twenty-five publishers.
Richard Hooker worked for seven years on his humorous war novel, M*A*S*H, only to have it rejected by 21 publishers before Morrow decided to publish it. It became a runaway bestseller, spawning a blockbusting movie and highly successful television series.
When the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book was completed, it was turned down by thirty-three publishers in New York and another ninety at the American Booksellers Association convention in Anaheim, California, before Health Communications, Inc., finally agreed to publish it. The major New York publishers said, "It is too nicey-nice" and "Nobody wants to read a book of short little stories." Since that time more than 8 million copies of the original Chicken Soup for the Soul book have been sold. The series, which has grown to thirty-two titles, in thirty-one languages, has sold more than 53 million copies.
In 1954, Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired Elvis Presley after one performance. He told Presley, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere… son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.” Elvis Presley went on to become the most popular singer in America.
Dr. Seuss' first children's book, And to Think That I Saw it on Mulberry Street, was rejected by twenty-seven publishers. The twenty-eighth publisher, Vanguard press, sold six million copies of the book.
Never give up believing in yourself!!!
The above inspirational stories were compiled from two excellent books by Jack Canfield and Mark Hansen,
Chicken Soup for the Writer's Soul and A Cup of Chicken Soup for the Soul.
And one last one, which helped me so many times over the years, and continues to help me when life beats me down....
“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.” ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
50 days, I’m amazed!
Hump Day Pledge
Good morning everybuddy
Happy Hump Day!!!!!
Up and going for the day today, not the fastest but I am going. Heading into my office and then I am off to a class to help and support our teacher again today and help her reorganize the room. Smoking will not be part of my day today or any day thank you much. Smoking causes smoking and does nothing for me so I will never again buy into the lies of addiction. Saying NO to smoking and YES to living the dream on the Freedom Road. I offer my hand to the next winning quitter joining me in kicking ash to the curb.
Have a great day
Repost: My 2000 Day Ramble... The Secret To My Success
This is a repost of my 2000 day ramble. I feel changing the thousands is worth a ramble - wish I had saved my early rambles - but alas I repost what I have.
Have a good one.
I know in the Q 2000 days does not have a celebration – but I feel it is pretty special and I am choosing to celebrate my 2000 days smoke free.
Here I am.... 2000 days – looking back – at times I did not think I would ever be to this point. How did I go from an ex smoker, to a smoker, to a serial quitter, to an ex smoker who now knows not only that I will never smoke again, but who has decided I never want to smoke again. This is what got me here.
I blew a 12 yr quit because I listened to the demon, the dragon – whatever you want to call it – the voices told me I could have just one and I bought that – and learned quick that for me 1 leads back to a pack a day habit. You would think when I decided to quit that I would have realized I could not have just one, but alas I was a slow learner – no let me be honest – I chose to smoke – I knew the consequence, I knew what would happen and I made a decision to smoke and justified it with some bull crap excuse – many bull crap excuses over the months. I played that game for easily a year and a half. My doctor wanted me to quit, he said I could quit now or after the heart attack if I lived and guess what – I still messed around easily 6 more months before finally starting this quit.
When I finally decided to quit without excuses, I applied myself to quitting, created a plan, did some research and discovered exactly how I was sabotaging my quit.
When I was going to blow a quit – I planned it. I did not come to the Q, I did not ask for help or support, I snuck about and showed up days or weeks later saying I was going to give it another go. This time I prepared for that. I met quitters and asked for help – a couple of these awesome people gave me email and phone numbers – taking away the excuse my internet was down. I had no excuse now to reach out to someone before I smoked. For me, that was very important and while I never had to contact anyone – it was a comfort to know I could just grab the paper in my purse that was always with me and get support.
Next, I hung at the Q and picked up some mantras and positive thoughts. These were things that stuck in my brain and in times of depression or trouble, I would read them. I kept a copy at work, at home and in my purse – again ready for when I needed help. I also pledged daily, and continue to pledge pretty much daily. It helps me remember where I came from and keep my quit in focus. I hope that it inspires new quitters to see that you can get to those numbers in time – I know they sure inspired me.
Many people have quit with smokers around. Many people have quit while going out as they feel that they must live life – I cannot express the amount of respect I have for those folks because I locked myself in my house. I missed functions at work where smoking or drinking would be as I could not trust myself. Driving was a huge trigger for me, and I did not drive home to the city for 2 months as I did not want to risk it. To each their own on what works – in my book you just do what works for you and don’t worry about what others think.
When I quit, I had to quit – I was mad. My doctor was just so annoying as he kept nagging at me – there were other people who smoked more than me, other people with more weight on them than me, other people smoking period – why did I have to quit while they got to enjoy themselves and smoke. I was angry at smokers, I was angry at happy ex smokers – frankly I was mad at the world. I did not want to quit – I had to quit and in the end just sucked it up and did what I had to do. I was a pretty unhappy camper for a long time. I had bouts of depression, some outward anger and at one point got counselling to help me deal with my emotions but I got through it.
In time, craves would come – they would pop into my head – I would be sitting on the computer and think I should have a smoke, and I would think I don’t smoke anymore and it would be gone. What is the key, the key is to always remember that you no longer smoke and when you think about it – dismiss it – do not think about it, do not dwell on it as the demon is just waiting for that door to open a tiny bit so he can get in the talk trash to you.
How do I feel today – 2000 days free – much different than I did when I started this journey. I now realize that I lost nothing when I quit smoking – I gained freedom. I am not a slave anymore to anyone or anything. I can choose when I come and go – I do not have to go running out the door to feed my addiction – and yes it took me time to see this. I now feel sorrow for smokers and especially serial quitters – having walked that path – I just want everyone to do whatever it takes to quit and not start again. My best friend in the world in NZ was diagnosed a few months back with a smoking related illness. I cannot now recall the name of it, but she was told to quit smoking. She was doing what I did to start – saying she did not want to quit – I was soooo angry and she knew it. I was thrilled to bits when she made the decision to quit – I told her that she did not have to be happy about, like me, she just had to quit and she is going on 3 months quit now. She is quitting with smokers around her. She is quitting without quit net, without people (aside from me) to call on in an emergency, and from her I truly learned we each walk our own path to quitting.
Sorry this has been so long – I just had so much I wanted to say. I want everyone to know this is doable – you hold the power over your quit. You quit in whatever way that works for you – but you have to quit – alas cutting down while good is not quitting and for many cutting down leaves the door open to increased smoking down the road.
Today, I will celebrate me. The $20,000.00 I have saved (although I don’t know where it is), and the life I have saved and the freedom in my life.
Remove smoking from the table – when you take it off the table as an option in life, you will succeed.
The surgeon said that he would have to quit smoking. I have heard that before. One of my co-workers started to have hearing loss. He was told that he needed an operation. His doctor insisted that he quit smoking. He choose not to go through with treatment. He would rather smoke. I think he was in his mid forties or so when that happened. My mother went through painful sinus surgery at one point in her life. I am sure that all that swirling smoke twenty five times a day did not help her condition. My sister would not have survived her brain surgery had she still been smoking. Her brain tumor would have done unimaginable damage so no was not an option. The fact that she had been quit seven years saved her life. Her ex had to have heart surgery and he went on the patch to get that job done. He used it for about six months and is now back to smoking full time. My DH is waiting for the surgeon to call for a hernia operation. I will try and talk to him about the idea that the best chance of healing well is to let go of his smoking habit. It is a measurable fact that the outcomes are better. Evidence based. I think my DH will feel that I am judging him and asking him to give up something he enjoys when in reality I just don't want things to go badly.
Good morning all
Up and going for the day today and moving along as I again have to be in the office for 8 as the printer is acting up again. Smoking will not be part of my day today or any day. Smoking gives me nothing but death and disease and lies to keep us hooked. I am saying NO to smoking and YES to another awesome day on the Freedom Road. Who will join me in kicking ash to the curb today?????
Have a good one