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Quit 5,671 days ago
Repost: The #1 cause of relapse is due to......
Never doubt the value of your decision to quit. It is a gift you are giving both yourself and those who love you. Quitting is a serious challenge, but it is doable. There is not a person in the world who cannot quit - stop doubting your decision to quit.
The #1 cause of relapse is due to ...
From june82012 on 7/11/2012 3:07:51 PM
The #1 cause of relapse is due to doubting your decision to stop smoking! So, NEVER doubt your decision, no matter what, and you will never ever have to go through Day 1 again!! Make a vow to yourself and mean it.
When you decide to quit smoking, it really and truly needs to be your final and unwavering decision. No ifs, ands, or "butts". In making your decision to quit smoking, you need to take smoking entirely off the table. Tell yourself daily, hourly, however often that you need to, that smoking is just not an option any longer - no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT. You need to own your quit and protect it like a mamma bear protecting her cubs.
Do not tell yourself you are "trying" or "attempting" to quit. You make the decision to stop smoking and you stick with it. The mentality of "trying" to quit simply leaves a hole in your decision. Then, sooner or later that hole will be ripped wide open by your cravings and/or triggers and your quit will go down the drain.
Know that you will have good days and bad days. So do people who have never smoked; everyone does. Keep in mind that smoking will not improve your bad days but will ruin your good days. Smoking does not solve or even lessen our problems. Heck, smoking IS our MAIN problem! We are addicted to nicotine.
The mental aspect of the addiction is what we need to deal with if we want to stop and stay stopped. We really, really, really have to want to quit more than we want to smoke. WANT power, not WILL power.
Once we decide to quit, war has been declared in our brain. Side A makes an informed and determined decision to stop smoking, while Side B uses oh so many cunning tricks to either keep you smoking or drag you back into it. So, we need to armor up the side that wants to quit in order to defeat the side that wants to stay addicted.
There is only one winner ... we must defeat or be defeated.
With no armor, one can never win the war. The main piece of arsenal is your decision. Think positively about your quit as much as you can, even when it's hard to. Don't give Side B of your brain any ammunition to use against you.
Make the best decision of your entire life and once and for all firmly decide to stop smoking! Keep close to the Q by reading threads and journals, and by posting when you're feeling confident and most definitely when you're not feeling confident (your addict side will try to pull you away from here and from your support lines!), join a club that interests you, pledge at least once a day, find a quit buddy or two, read and learn all you can about the addiction, tell everyone you know that you have made this absolutely wonderful, life altering decision... but most importantly, no matter what...
never doubt your decision to stop smoking!
Not One Puff...EVER!
No matter what!
Attitude determines altitude!
33 days and 22 minutes smoke free.
660 cigarettes not smoked.
$186.78 and 5 days, 1 hour of my life saved.
Quit date: 6/8/2012 1:45 PM
Last reply: July 30 @ 2:32 pm
  • Tess
    Quit 595 days ago
    July 30 @ 2:32 pm
    I have never liked when someone says, "I'll try..." about anything.  "Try" implies I might fail and am giving myself an out.  I AM is a powerful statement!
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